The Power of Play: Why It Matters at Every Age

The word “play” can instantly bring images of childhood to mind: toys scattered across the floor, laughter echoing through the yard, and kids running through the neighborhood. However, for many adults, play has become something we’ve left behind. As the oldest child, I often felt self-conscious about being playful.I didn’t want to be seen as a child while taking care of my younger cousins. Still, I often felt jealous watching them have fun. Was play something I was meant to outgrow? As I’ve grown older, I’ve heard play be called many things: unproductive, silly, even a distraction. But the truth is play is one of the most meaningful and necessary things we can do.

Play isn’t a luxury that we should outgrow. It’s how humans (and even other intelligent animals) learn, grow, and build connections. It’s a sign of complex development, emotional safety, and creativity. Through play, we learn boundaries, build trust, and practice a host of important skills. And the best part? Skills that are often hard to teach (impulse control, communication, and problem-solving) come naturally through play. 

These lessons unfold through play, without lectures. It’s remarkable that we can learn through experience, and gentle guidance. We don’t need a formal class on patience. We practice it every time we take turns. Play is the language of learning.

It’s not surprising that many adults find it difficult to play. Being silly, or stepping into imagination can feel vulnerable. There’s often a fear of judgment, or we’ve forgotten how to play. Play doesn’t have to be complicated. It’s as simple as finding something that genuinely interests both you and your child. Maybe that’s Pokemon, Minecraft, tag, or a board game. My family and I often play various trading card games. I get to see their faces light up, and help them problem- solve when they get stuck. In those moments, we’re no longer just parent and child. We’re simply people sharing something we enjoy. In the end, what matters most isn’t the activity itself, but the connection it creates. 

So instead of gatekeeping play as an activity that’s just for kids, let’s remember that it’s also a way for others to explore, bond, and heal. Play keeps our minds flexible, strengthens relationships, and improves mood. In a world that often prioritizes productivity, choosing to play is a radical act of connection and care. So go play with your child, your partner, or a friend. Not just for fun, but for growth, healing, and human connection.

Giving children, or yourself, a chance to learn, grow, and connect isn’t something you have to do alone. With play and the right support, you and your family can thrive. Our skilled clinicians here at Zimmerman Therapy group are ready to help. Contact us today to get started.

Holding space for whatever comes next,

Angelina Gutierrez, LPCC 18001